Choosing Between Two People

Have you been dating, flirting with, or just interested in two people for some time?  If so, you may feel that it is time to make a choice between the two people so you can truly start a relationship with one.  If you feel badly for being interested in two people, don’t, there are a lot of people who are in a similar position.

First and foremost, you should consider the idea that you don’t have to settle for just one.  You can continue to date both people for as long as you like and really get a sense of who each person is and what they can bring to your life.  If you are interested in two people it generally means that you need to get to know them both a bit more so you can see who is really more suited for you.

If you feel ready to be in a committed relationship and you just aren’t sure which one to pursue it with, consider who shares your beliefs or values.  When you are with someone who shares more of your beliefs or values you will have something to build a relationship on.  Of course, they don’t have to share all of your beliefs and values, but choosing the person who shares at least some of your beliefs than you will be better off.

Consider who you feel more connected to.  Even if you really enjoy spending time with both people, you will want to consider who it is that you feel more connected to or bonded with.  Chances are there is one that you feel just a bit more comfortable with.  It is someone that you can be yourself with that you want to commit yourself to, so consider this when trying to make your choice.

Who did you feel that instant spark with?  You need to consider who you had an immediate connection with, and then consider whether or not this spark still exists between the two of you.  It is someone that you feel drawn to that you want to spend your time with.  Someone whom you have a lot of chemistry with will be good for you, as this chemistry will keep you together and help you through the tough times.

Choosing between two people is always difficult.  Remember that there is nothing that says you need to choose right now.  If someone is pressuring you to commit to them and you feel hesitant, this is probably not the person that you should be with.  You need to make these choices in your own time and on your own accord.  Sometimes you just need to see a couple different people at once and enjoy your connections with both before you choose just one person to commit to.

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