Active dating for singles

For single people, dating is a very important part of life. In fact, some singles truly enjoy the dating process that they seem to never want to commit to anyone because they do not want to leave the dating arena.  In the past, active dating was seen negatively and would pertain to people who’d like to stay put on the playing field.  But nowadays, casual dating seems to be more practiced than ever before.  With the emergence of speed and online dating, more choices are seen as far better than being tied up to only one.

This is not to say that single people tend to shy away from serious relationships.  It only means that today’s single people are more selective and more careful when it comes to commitment and relationships.
For those who do want to enter the playing field, here are a few notable suggestions that can help you make the dating process a more exciting and worthwhile endeavour for you.

Before actively dating, be sure that you do not have an unresolved relationship with a pending closure.  Make up your mind, once and for all.  If you do decide to commit to that relationship, you must be firm and stop with active dating. Otherwise, one or more people will get hurt in the process.  On the other hand, if you decide to actively date, stick to your goal of dating as many prospects as possible. 

Be very frank with your date.  Tell him or her about your intentions but not too early in the date as it may spoil the night altogether.  Do it as gently and as caring as possible.  Make him or her understand that you are not yet ready for a committed relationship.  Make him/her see that you dated him/her because you are interested to get to know him/her better.  Don’t give him/her false hopes but don’t also shut him/her off especially if you really do like him/her.

Don’t get too intimate with anyone.  Casual sex is not advisable for active daters as it will surely complicate things in the long run.  Try to keep dates as healthy and wholesome as possible.  Dates after all should be more romantic than sexual.  If you sense that your date wants to do it with you, try to decline as gently as possible to avoid sending him/her rejection signals.  Tell him/her that you may eventually engage in that some other time and you certainly want to but it can wait until you are emotionally ready for it.

Lastly, as not all dates end with a promise of another date, inform him/her whether or not you are indeed interested to see him/her again.  It is but very frustrating for a person to wait for a call from a recently concluded date.  Have the courage and courtesy to explain that you enjoyed your date but you would rather see other people more before actually getting into something more serious.  Any decent date will surely appreciate your candidness.  As they always say honesty is the best policy and the same applies even to active dating.

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