Things You Should Never do on a First Date
First dates can be a lot of fun, although they can also be a little terrifying because there is just so much that is unknown! A lot of what will make or break a first date is what you do while you are out with this new person. There are some things that you should never do on a first date if you want there to be a second. Unfortunately, a lot of people break these rules.
1. Never dress in a way that you normally don’t. This just sets a bad precedent. Be yourself so that the person can see who you really are. If you don’t bring yourself to the first date, you can bring yourself to the second or third dates either, and before you know it you are a stranger even to yourself! Just be who you are, and dress in a manner that is appropriate for the date but is also true to who you are.
2. Don’t talk about every bad relationship you have ever have. You may feel the need to let your date know why you are a little jaded or protective of your feelings, but do everything you can to avoid the temptation to leave all of your baggage out on the floor on the first date. While everyone has baggage, we don’t like to have to carry it when we first meet someone. It’s just not cool.
3. Don’t drink too much. Indulge in a drink or two, but don’t over do it. If your date is drinking a lot, don’t feel like you have to follow suit. You might make decisions that you wouldn’t normally make when you have had too much to drink, so enjoy one or two of your favorite drinks and then move onto your favorite soda or fruity non-alcoholic drink.
4. Don’t spend too much time talking about you. While it’s good to share things about you, make sure that you take a breather every once in awhile and ask your date about themselves and their lives. Don’t just ask the questions, but really listen to the answers. This will allow you to get to know them and for them to get to know you, without either of you walking away totally exhausted from the interactions!
5. Perhaps the most important thing that you should never do on a first date is have sex. While you may be excited and turned on by the person that you are on a date with, if you have sex now there will be nothing more to look forward to in the future. Just hold on for a few more dates and allow for your first sexual experience to really mean something. You’ll be glad you did!