Saying “I love you” Without Words
Telling someone that you love them involves so much more than words. So often we get caught up in the idea that showing someone that you love them is all about saying the words, but there is so much more to it than that. There are some really simple, but great, ways to tell your spouse that you love them without actually saying a word. By doing just a few things you will let your spouse know that they are truly loved.
1. Pick up their favorite snack. Remember when you were first dating and you would run to the store in the middle of the night and pick up that pint of favorite ice cream, bag of chips, or candy just to make the person happy and let them know that you loved them? Many people do away with this practice once they get married or are settled into a relationship, but you shouldn’t! You should continue to do these small things to show the person that you love that you really do care. Pick up their favorite snack on the way home from work and surprise them with it, you’ll be telling that you love them without saying a word!
2. Sneak a note into their work things. When we first get together with someone we are more likely to write love letters and express our feelings through words, but over time it becomes easier to just mutter “love you” on your way out the door. Instead of going this route, once in awhile you should sneak a little note into their work things, on the dashboard of the car, or in their lunch.
3. Do something nice, just because. Don’t wait until you are asked or because you feel like you have to do something, instead choose to do something nice for your spouse every now and again. You can do something little like ensure that their favorite shirt is clean; make them their favorite cookies, or something of this sort. If you do little things like this, you are expressing your love in an obvious but wordless fashion.
4. Touch in a non-sexual way. So often we touch either really briefly or only in a sexual way and there is so little in between. Instead of only touching when it is routine or when you are having sex, walk by your spouse and rub them on the back for a second longer than normal, rub their neck, hold their hand, or extend your non-sexual touch just a bit longer than usual. This will allow them to feel nothing but loved!
5. If you know that something that you does bugs your mate, make a concerted and obvious effort to correct it. Don’t just try to change the behavior, but let them know that you are doing so. This will let your lover know that you love them enough to change things about yourself, which says a lot!