Dating Someone That You Dated in the Past

If you are like a lot of people, you have dated a lot of people in the past, and though you liked one another the timing just wasn’t right.  Of course, just because things didn’t work out in the past doesn’t mean that they couldn’t work out in the future.  If you cross paths again in the future and you shouldn’t blow off the opportunity to date them again just because you did in the future.  If you want to give it another shot there are some things that you should remember or at least keep in mind:

1. Think about why it didn’t work out in the past.  Was it really just timing or do you want different things from life?  Was the person unkind to you? Did they pressure you to do things that you didn’t want or like to do?  You shouldn’t assume that what happened in the past will be the same, but if you had some fundamental differences you should really stop and think about whether you can deal with them before you invest any more time in the relationship.

2. Build on what you already know about one another.  The awesome thing about dating someone that you already know at least a little bit is that you don’t have to go through those uncomfortable and often daunting first date conversations where you try to learn more about one another.

3. Don’t fall into familiar routines.  While you may have dated in the past, you should approach the relationship with an excitement that you would approach any new relationship.  If you simply fall into old routines you’ll end up breaking up again.  There is a reason why it didn’t work out before, so try to be excited about the new relationship even though it is with someone that you already dated in the past.

4. Don’t feel like you have to make it work.  Feel it out.  You’ll know pretty quickly whether this is going to be something that will work or not.  You shouldn’t feel like just because this is the second time around that you have to stick it out.  If it’s working great, but if it is not you should definitely find your way out sooner rather than later.  You don’t need to waste time on the relationship if it’s not working.

5. Let them know more about you. Open up even more and really share your life and your thoughts with this person.  The only way to build on what you already have is to share more and really expand the relationship to a whole new level.  You’ll find that you become a lot closer and have more to talk about and connect over when you do this.

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