Many men feel like they have to do something special to get that girl that they have been noticing to go out with them. There is a lot of information out there about seduction techniques and many guys get so wrapped up in the art of seduction that they are wasting precious time. If you are one of those guys that believe that you have to somehow seduce her into wanting you, stop wasting your time. Try a more direct approach; chances are if you just ask her out that you will be much more successful in taking her out sooner rather than later.
While this is great advice a lot of guys are left scratching their head. They think if it was just so simple to ask her out he would have done that already. It really is that simple, you just need to ask the question. You can ask the question in a variety of ways that allow you to come off interested but also casual and comfortable.
Do you want to go to dinner this week? When you ask a woman to dinner you are letting her know that you are interested but when you phrase it this way you are allowing her to back out if she is not interested. If she says no you haven’t put yourself out there too much, but you have made you intent known well enough. Chances are she’ll say yes and be flattered by your request.
I have tickets to the game; would you like to go with me? If you know that she likes the same team that you do, why not ask her to go to the game with you? This is another casual way that you can ask to spend time with her, but if she says no you can just shrug it off as you were asking another fan to attend with you. No need to feel embarrassed or like you have lost any face!
Would you like to grab coffee? This is a great way to get to know someone that you are attracted to. You can keep it brief but also let her know that you have some casual interest in her. If she says she doesn’t have time, simply offer to bring her a cup of her favorite brew as this will also let her know that you are interested and might help her to take more notice of you, also.
This movie looks great; would you like to go see it together? A movie is always a get in, especially if you know that it is something that she has expressed interest in. This is also a non-threatening date because you don’t have to have constant dialog, the entertainment is provided for you and if you have good feelings after the movie you can ask to take her for ice cream or a cup of coffee.
The idea is to keep it simple. Don’t go into a big speech about how you are interested in her and you want to get to know her better. Just simply ask if she would like to do something with you. If she is interested she’ll likely say yes, even if it is not today or tomorrow, and if she is not she’ll say no. When you keep it short and sweet you don’t lose any face through the process but you put yourself out there just enough to hopefully meet someone and spend time with someone new.