How to Pick Out the Ones You Should Stay Away From
Are you known for your dating disasters? If so, you likely have a problem being able to pick out the people who are just not right for you. A lot of people have this problem, they are excited to be out with someone new and they totally overlook the red flags that are popping up everywhere. If you want to know how to pick out the people that you just should stay away from you should look out for:
1. Those who are attached. Even if they are “in the process” of a break up or divorce you should consider them attached. If the person mentions a girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, or husband, you need to head for the nearest exit. This doesn’t mean that you can’t consider dating them in six months or a year, but tell them that you need for them to be completely unattached before you will consider dating them. This will help you steer clear of the drama and heartache that comes along with people who are still attached.
2. Those who aren’t looking for the same thing as you. When people talk you need to listen. There are some key things that people often say when we begin dating that we often gloss over or assume that we can change. If the person that you are dating says that they aren’t looking for commitment and you are, then you need to get out, and vice versa. You need to be sure that you listen and look for those cues and the moment you are told otherwise you need to walk away.
3. You don’t share a social life. If you have been dating for awhile and your love interest still isn’t introducing you to friends or family, you may need to question why. If you don’t do anything with friends and your love interest is happy with this, you need to proceed with caution. This is often an indication that they are seeing someone else or just not that into you.
4. They don’t take an interest in what you do. It’s great when you have an awesome physical relationship with someone and that you seem to click when you are together, but if the person that you are dating doesn’t seem to take an interest in what you like to do outside of the relationship, that is a problem. Someone who has a genuine interest in you will want to know something of every aspect of your life.
5. They talk about their ex all the time. This sort of goes hand in hand with the first red flag, but even if the person is unattached you need to make sure that they are unattached emotionally as much as they are physically. If the ex is a constant topic, run for the hills!