Whether there are deaths in the family, the loss of jobs, the regular ups and downs in a relationship, or the effects of the withering economy every relationship is going to go through tough times. It is these hard times that can make or break a relationship. Instead of allowing for the tough times to break your relationship and leave you alone, allow it to bring you together. You’ll come away from the tough times a more solid unit and your relationship will be able to weather the next storm more effectively.
Some great ways to get through the tough times are:
1. Turn toward one another instead of away from one another when there is a problem. Many married couples don’t make it through the tough times because instead of going to one another when things are tough, they either pull inward or their turn toward family and friends. You need to rely on yourselves and one another to get out of tough spots because this is the way that a relationship is built. If you are constantly turning away from one another to get your needs met during a crisis you won’t learn how much you need one another.
2. Approach problems as a team. Couples who are successful at getting through tough times take an “us against the world” approach and this works. If you team up and get you through the problems together you’ll find that you are able to share the burden of the issues that lay before you so that in the end you are both stronger as individuals and as a couple.
3. Don’t fight. It is easy when you are stressed to pick at the people who mean the most to you. Instead of finding reasons to fight, find reasons to love one another. When you are irritated or agitated, don’t lash out, let your spouse know how they are feeling and how they can help you feel better. In the end this will be so much more beneficial than the other option.
4. Enjoy the small things in life. Whether it is being able to sit down and eat something together or just watching television with one another for an hour or two, take some comfort in this. Don’t expect too much from yourself or your spouse during the tough times.
5. Make time for the relationship. When you are stressed and things are very difficult it’s easy to let the relationship fall by the wayside. Instead of letting it fall by the wayside, make time for it. Leave little love notes, hug one another, kiss one another, and remember that you love and need one another. This will make getting through the tough times so much easier because you aren’t doing it alone and you’ll come out the other side much stronger.