Breaking Up With Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
The saying “breaking up is hard to do” has been around for a long time but it doesn’t necessarily need to apply to your relationship. You need to do away with the thought that it has to be a really long and drawn out process so you can move forward, break it off, and get on with your life. A breakup can be very emotional and you may have mixed emotions, but it doesn’t have to be hard to actually do the breaking up.
Before you go breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend you need to be sure that this is something that you really want. This is important because once you say the words it is hard to take them back. Even if you got back together, things would never be exactly the same again. So, before you say that you want to break up, you need to be certain that this is something that you are sure about.
Next, you need to get things in order to make the break up as painless as possible. If you have things at his or her place, try to get these things out little by little. Don’t have it be some big ordeal, but when you can grab a couple things this is a good idea so you don’t have to have a dramatic cleaning out of one another’s homes. Putting things in order for the breakup will also be somewhat of a closure process for you.
Decide when you want to have the big conversation. Despite how much easier you may think it would be to break up through an email or through a text message or even over the phone, you need to avoid doing this. Obviously, if you are involved in a long distance relationship this will not be an option, but when possible you really need to break up with someone face to face.
Break the news gently. Let them know that while you have really enjoyed your time together, you are ready to be on your own. Don’t use any of the cliché lines such as “it’s not you it’s me” type things because this is just insulting. Instead, just tell them the truth about how you are feeling. Maybe the relationship just doesn’t fulfill your needs, or perhaps you have a desire to see what else is out there. Being honest will allow you to make that clean break instead of hiding any real reasons that you may have for breaking up.
It’s important to make that clean break. After you have given each other’s stuff back, make sure that you don’t see one another. Don’t call them for help unless absolutely necessary, instead rely on friends and family. This will ensure that you don’t send mixed messages or fall into old habits with the person and end up with them again unintentionally.