Nov 14

It seems that the world is becoming a smaller and smaller place all the time.  We are traveling to all of the corners of the world and the result is that a lot of the people that we may meet and even date are those that are traveling. It can be difficult to date someone who has to travel a lot for work, but not impossible.  There are some things that you can do to make the process of dating someone who is away often easier.  If you are dedicated to making the relationship last, you will find that dating someone who travels a lot doesn’t have to be much more work than any other relationship, it’s just different.

First and foremost, understand what they do when they travel.  It is a lot easier to be content with a situation when you know why it is the way it is.  Ask questions about it, seek to learn what your partner is doing while they are away, this way you always have something to talk about or ask about even when you are talking on the phone or by email when they are traveling.

Make the most of your time together.  Many people who are dating someone who travels a lot focus so much on the time that they spend apart that they forget to enjoy the time that they spend together.  When your love interest is in town make sure that you spend plenty of quality time together and even make time to do little things such as household chores, walking the dog, and normal things together.  This will give you that touch of normal that you may miss while they are away.

Offer to travel with them from time to time.  This may not always be possible, but if it is, why not pack your bags and go with them. While they work you could see the sights and really learn about where it is that they go.  You may find that dating someone who travels a lot is a benefit because you get to go to places and see things that you wouldn’t have seen otherwise.  This can be a lot of fun.

Get comfortable talking on the phone or by email.  This can be difficult if you are not a good communicator, but you need to practice at it.  The more you practice your communication skills the better you will get at it and the result is that your relationship will continue to flourish even when you are apart.  Learn how to say and write what you mean and don’t be afraid to ask questions.  When you are open and honest you are fostering good communication, which is needed when you cannot always be together.

Nov 13

When you start dating someone just a few weeks before the holidays it can always be awkward to buy gifts for one another.  First of all, you are still in the “getting to know you” stages of the relationship so you may not know exactly what to buy.  It can also be a bit shaky because you aren’t always sure of one another’s financial status and you don’t know how much to spend.  Overall, it can be a daunting task to choose and gift gifts in a new relationship.

To make things easy, you just need to be upfront about your intentions to buy a gift.  You can ask simply, “Would you like to exchange gifts for the holidays?”  This is an easy out for the person that you are dating to say that they would rather not exchange gifts for monetary reasons.  You may also decide that instead of buying one another that you are both going to pitch in for a nice dinner or something of this sort.  Posing the question is the best thing that you can do to clear up whether or not you should be shopping for the person that you are dating.

If you decide that you are going to buy gifts for one another, you should set a price limit.  Tell them that you would rather them save their money for things that you can do together, so they should keep it under a certain dollar amount.  You may be able to gauge how much they can afford and if you can’t, keep it safe and say $20 or $40.  If you know that they can bake or cook, tell them that you would like for them to bake or cook you something instead, if you are worried about them spending too much.

Keep things simple when you do buy a gift.  Don’t get too intimate or too involved.  Buy something that you know that they would enjoy such as that CD they have been talking about, that beautiful throw they have been looking at, or even a gift certificate to their favorite salon or store.  You don’t have to buy jewelry or lingerie or anything of this sort.  Instead, keep it simple and safe to ensure that you don’t send any mixed messages.

If in doubt, ask what they would like.  Or, when you are at their home look around and see what sort of things they like.  Look at the colors, textures, and themes and derive some ideas from this.  Think outside of the box if you have to and buy them those new seat covers for their car they have been looking for, a flowering plant that you think they would like, or even tickets to a movie that they have been talking about.  You don’t have to go for something that you can wrap or that they would be expecting.  Just shop and give with caution, you don’t want to come on too strong or seem too impersonal.

Nov 8

Most women have fears when it comes to dating. With all the disappointing stories they hear from their friends, some women tend to think that dating is difficult and just a waste of time and effort.
Dating depends on every woman’s perception. If you think that dating is terrible, it may turn out that way. On the other hand, if you have an open mind to new things, you might discover that dating has many benefits for your personal, mental and emotional growth.

Everybody needs dating advice one way or another. Dating advice is necessary especially to those who have not tried dating and for those who do not intend to date again because of a terrible dating experience.
One of the best dating advice is to have a positive attitude at all times. Having negative thoughts is normal, especially if you have experienced bad dating in the past. However, do not let yourself be in that down moment for a long time. Try to change your outlook and think of the positive possibilities of dating.

Whenever you feel depressed or having negative thoughts on dating, men, relationships and love, ask yourself if it is worth thinking that way. You will just end up more depressed and sad with all those negativity. What you must do is think the opposite. Visualize how it would be like meeting that special someone and the feeling of spending time with that someone. Soon enough, you will discover that positive thinking gives you a lighter mood and a better perspective. 

Another dating advice is to have an intention for every week or every month. Imagine on the things you want to do, experiences you want to have and situations you want to happen. You do not have to be specific on a particular man. What you need to have is the feeling it gives you as you enjoy and laugh in the process.
Even if you have dated for a hundred times, you might still need a dating advice. You can have an idea on the things that have gone wrong and learn from them. If you are thinking to give dating a try, dating advice can prepare you of the things that you might encounter in the future.

Preparation is the key to have a successful date. Think ahead about the possible things that may happen. It can be helpful to have a back-up plan in case something wrong happens. It is important to look your best on your date. You do not have to wear expensive clothes and perfume, as long as you look neat and clean.
Try not to feel nervous. Even though how anxious you feel, try not to show it. Be careful with you actions and avoid being still. Always smile to help both of you to loosen up. Feeling awkward is normal especially on the first dates and you can break the ice by smiling.

Avoid talking too much. This applies to everything whether about your career, family and friends especially about your past relationships. Talking about your former boyfriend is a big turn off.

Nov 8

Online dating does not always comprise of all the good things and advantages a person can experience in this virtual dating system. Behind those good looks and pleasing personalities might be a vicious character waiting for the next prey in line. This statement is never to be regarded as impossibility, for the concept of online dating has somehow been stained by scams and frauds in the past years.

What a person seeking for a genuine and true online dating website should know to avoid being the next target? Here are the following online dating advices requiring painstaking attention.

1. Too much affection and attachment is not healthy. Even if a person you met online seemed to be someone you have known for the longest time, staying on the safe side by not disclosing any personal information about yourself should be one of the most important things to consider. Although, it would not be impossible to share some of parts of your life in the course of your chat or talk, it is still best to avoid questions that seem to be very personal and unfitting. Keep in mind, the person on the other line is still unknown to you. Regardless of him/her being a constant chat mate or not, too much connection and fondness might lead to an unforeseen danger. Be very careful with people that exudes outstanding pleasantness, they can deceive.

2. Always put a mind over heart judgment. When people are enticed with sweet talks, they tend to put so much conviction on that particular person where they get the experience and feeling of being loved. This is an acceptable fact but you have to set restrictions and boundaries. If your chat mate or a virtual mate asks something that involves money, you need to think twice. A lot of scams involving money are being made up just to get out of a sticky situation. Oftentimes, these looters would crop up their own story to make you believe that they need your help and that you are the only person in the world that could help them. This is another kind of deceiving strategy and you simply have to have both eyes open for possible make believe and role-play.

3. Another online dating advice is to never get physical in an actual and personal rendezvous. You might get carried away of sweet tongues especially women who can be easily caressed and fooled by men. This is something that needs careful handling. If you agreed on a personal date; for women, it is essential that you avoid any signs of being too close to the other party. For men, avoid being too aggressive, this will give a woman the impression that you are only after for the deed.

There are still a lot of things you need to know when you go online dating. It is never a problem to be friendly, accommodating and sweet, yet these simple gestures and affections should have its own limitations. Love is blind but you can choose to see things clearly and appropriately.

Nov 7

In the dating arena, the more people grow mature, the more that the rules will change. What you may have done during your teen years, may not be applicable to your young professional years.
There are also rules that make dating similar to detention. Having these dating rules in mind end up making you stiff, uncomfortable, and most of all, boring. And to add insult to injury, you have your trusty group of friends who are nice enough to give you dating advises, and ending up being useless.
True enough there are dating rules. But, you have to keep in mind that being enslaved by these rules won’t help. You always have to learn to play it by ear. Or in this case, by heart.
The Right Way
1. Always present yourself in the best way possible.
2. Punctuality is a plus point.
3. Have fun and focus on getting to know your date.
4. Compliment your date, this can ease whatever jitters they may be feeling.
5. Don’t pretend to be interested, or your date will.
6. If you feel that the date should be your last, be honest about it.
7. Date the person you are actually interested in knowing.
8. If it ends bad, think that there are many fish in the ocean.
9. Think of dating as your way of escaping your usual routine.
10. Being friendly can be fun, and sometimes sexy.
11. Have a positive icon to think of to keep your hopes up.
The Wrong Way
1. Don’t be desperate. This type of behaviour guarantees a major turn-off.
2. If you tend to attract the wrong type of people, go out of your comfort zone.
3. Never make your date wait. Remember, time is of the essence.
4. Be honest about yourself. If you’re not happy with your own life, might as well put a hold on dating for a while.
5. Don’t be too available.
6. Start off by telling your date the basics of your life.
7. Focus on your date. If you are too distracted by “other” people and you can’t help but check them out, then you have to admit that it’s a wrong time to go on dating.
8. Don’t go on a drinking spree as an idea of a perfect date. You have friends to do that with.
9. Keep everyone you know in the loop. Always have your parents and/or your friends updated about your whereabouts.
10. Don’t be too trusting. Nowadays, it pays to be cautious about everyone. It is best to introduce your date to someone from your family so they know who are you going out with.
11. No to sex on a first date. A session in the sack has a huge possibility of ruining everything.
12. Check for a ring. Some find dating married people a sexy trend, especially since they are much more “experienced” in the sack. But are you up for the title “family wrecker” or “third party” or “mistress”?

Nov 5

It seems that we have all been guilty of breaking up but not really breaking up in the past.  Do you currently find yourself leaning on your ex for certain things or even being physical with them?  This is more common than you might think and while you thought that none of your friends would ever guess that you hadn’t really made a clean break, you may be surprised to find that a lot of them have done the same thing at some point in the past.

Does your inability to make the clean break confuse you?  Do you go back and forth between feeling like you shouldn’t have broken up at all to feeling angry that you cannot make that clean break?  Do you promise yourself that each time you are together it will be your last, yet you find that you keep getting together?  This can be a dangerous cycle because generally it leads to one or both of you being hurt again and again by the same issues.

If you broke up, you should stay broken up.  This doesn’t mean that if you love one another and just hit a bump in the road that you shouldn’t try to make it work.  What it means is that if you know that the relationship will never work and you know that you shouldn’t be together, you should make the move to end the relationship once and for all.  The way you do this is make sure that you both have all of your things, get all of your financial and personal information in order and separated, and then let your partner know that this is it.  Tell them that you will not be making any more contact and you truly need a clean break.

Don’t be tempted to call your ex or to accept their calls.  Instead, give yourself a month apart and then reassess the situation.  You may find that the first couple weeks are really difficult because you have always relied on the person for certain things and you may just need a bit of reassurance.  Don’t allow yourself to make the call and don’t take their calls for this one month period, once you get through this period you will see whether or not you can make it on your own and chances are you will feel better because of it.

Instituting the clean break is one of the most difficult things that you will ever do, especially if you had a particularly intense relationship.  You need to give yourself this month because chances are you will not look back after this.  A month is the time you need to strike out on your own and get a taste of the world without your ex.  Only after this month should you allow yourself to accept any calls or communication from your ex, and even at this point you should remain a bit guarded.

Nov 4

Most women are having second thought when it comes to dating. To consider going out on a date is already stressful and the idea of dating someone you do not really know is more stressful still. If you are one of the single women who are not familiar with the dating scene, here are some dating tips to give you more confidence in dating.

1. Always be on time when dating. It is important to be on time especially on the first date. Most women tend to arrive late on dates because of the tradition that it is fine for men to wait for women. However, being on time is not only to impress but also to be considerate to your date. 

2. Be observant during the date. Though you must have fun on your date, it is still important to observe what is going on for your own protection. See if you date is acting weird or suspiciously, or he is just a bit nervous. Pay attention to his body language especially to his eyes. If he is looking at you in an uncomfortable impolite manner or looking at the woman next to you, maybe it is time to finish the date. Being aware gives you more opportunity to deal with the situation.

3. It is important to be nice, not only on dates but at all times. Having a positive attitude can greatly affect the mood of the people around you. When you are on a date, talk about the things that interest you, complement him about his looks, his clothes, and tell him how much you are enjoying his company. This way, he will feel at ease and more comfortable. Complements also boost anybody’s confidence. However, do not lie. Do not give him complements that are obviously not true.

4. It is important to enjoy your date. It is a good opportunity to get to know each other better and to have fun. Though you need to be observant, avoid being too critical. Let your date know that you are having fun because if he feels that you are bored, he may feel nervous. Show your date the real you. It does not matter if he will or will not like the way you are but eventually, your honesty will be appreciated.

5. After the date, it is fine to show interest. If you like the man, you may tend to wait for his call immediately after your date and it can be stressful. If he is interested, he will definitely call you. Men usually need to put up a lot of courage before they could show some interest so give your date more time to prepare. It is fine to give him a ring and say hello if he has not called after two days. Let him know that you had wonderful time with him and give some clues that you are looking forward to the next date.

6. When dating, it is important to maintain consistency. Men usually do not like being surprised. As much as possible keep the impression you had on him on the first date.

Nov 4

You have been wanting to date this lady from school or from office. Finally, she said yes. Here is a dating advice: Do not destroy your first date or your chances of scoring a second date by committing these no-no’s!

First dating advice on what not to do: Do not forget to shower and brush your teeth if you are going on a date. Whether you will go to a fancy restaurant, a museum or a rock concert, make sure that you are presentable. There is no bigger deal breaker than having body odor or bad breath!

Second dating advice: Do not get late. Respect the time of your date just as you respect the time of your bosses, clients or teachers. Not being on time is a major turn-off for most people. This does not give you a good first impression.

Another dating advice: Do not talk about your previous relationships during your date. There are a lot of topics you should shy away from while you are with your date just like religion and politics (unless you know these two interest the both of you). You should also not open up about your exes, or worse, do not talk about them all the time. This may give your date the impression that you are still not over your past lovers and that you are just going to treat her as your rebound. If the topic about your exes has been brought out, you can discuss it a little bit, but know when to stop, and what details to save for yourself or for later.

Fourth dating advice: It is ok to talk about your personal plans for the future, but do not make plans with your partner already. Do not discuss just yet when you want to get married or how many children you want with your date. Case in point: During Dr. Travis Lane Stork’s season as The Bachelor, one of the contestants, approached him and told him that her body clock was ticking. This caught the bachelor by surprise, and he ultimately sent her home during the show’s first episode.

Fifth dating advice: Do not use your phone while you are on a date. Whether your text messages and calls are personal or business-related, do not answer them just yet while you are with your prospect. Using your phone the whole time you are together will give your date the impression that you are not interested in him or her. Most importantly, doing so is rude!

Sixth dating advice: Do not pretend that you are someone who you are not. Be sincere and modest. Do not come off as arrogant. Confidence is attractive, while arrogance is repulsive. Besides, your date may soon find out that you are just lying, and your chances of seeing him or her again will go kaput.

So, if you really like your date, follow these simple pieces of dating advice, and you may soon score more dates with him or her. Who knows, the two of you may just end up together.

Nov 4

You can find millions of dating advice for men in magazines, books and especially on the internet. Men are always looking for the best dating advice that can help them improve their dating strategies. With countless dating advice to choose from, it may be difficult for men to find the most effective dating advice.

One of the best dating advice you can count on is sticking with the basics. All women, no matter how successful they are want to be respected and treated nicely. You should not try to be a man because women are more attracted to gentlemen. With the modern world of sexual liberation, having good manners are still the best way to win any woman’s heart. 

Dating advice for men is different with dating advice for women. Men focus on things that are more rational when it comes to dating such as the best place to have a romantic dinner while women think more about the appearance and the emotional part of the dating scene. It is not necessary to plan about the particular dating place but women appreciate men who take time in making the date special. Going to a dinner and a movie is the most common dating activity so if you want to impress your date, make an effort to be more creative and treat her into something she will never forget. 

Pay attention on how you dress and how you carry yourself. If you want to give the best impression, make sure that you choose the right kind of clothes. You do not have to be a fashion genius in order to look good. If you think that you need fashion tips, go through different fashion magazines to know the latest trends when it comes to men’s fashion. Go around the mall to get ideas on what to wear. Expensive clothes are not necessary; just make sure that you look clean and neat with the clothes you wear. If you are attracted to good looking women who carry themselves well, women also feel the same. Another important thing to consider is the kind of date you are going. For instance, if you are planning on a stroll in the park, wear clothes that are more casual and if you are having a romantic dinner, make an extra effort to dress up formally. Putting on perfume is a good idea but make sure that you do not overdo it.

In reality, most men think about sex in some part of their dating and this is one of the many mistakes men do. One of the most important dating advices is that men should not ever think about getting a woman in bed on the first date, or the second date for that matter. A kiss on a cheek may be the most appropriate thing to do before a date ends.

With the many dating advice in books, magazines and the internet, it all boils down to one important fact. Be yourself every time you are on a date. Do not try to impress a woman by pretending to be someone you are not because she will discover the real you eventually.

Nov 4

D-o some research. Instead of the conventional I-find-you-attractive lines, try messaging people in a different style. Look into their dating profiles and include in your message his/her hobby or interest that you find interesting about him. You could also get a little bonus if you become more specific about it. This dating advice will definitely flatter them, and the next thing to expect is a quick reply where an interesting exchange of messages is just about to start.

 A-sk interesting questions. There usually comes a time where both of you might probably run out of ideas to talk about. Try thinking about how you two bumped into each other in the first place—your common dating interests. If you both like sports, talk about making plans in playing a tennis match. If you are both into gadgets, just google up some latest techie stuffs that you believe will keep him going. Do not try to monopolize the conversation. If he runs out of words, do not talk endlessly, hoping he will catch up. It’s a big no-no! Start with one or two sentences about yourself that he will find interesting, and then ask him his thoughts about it. Keep him thinking, and keep him thinking that you are interesting.

 T-ry to reject politely. If, for some reasons, you refuse to go out with someone you met through online dating, decline the offer as politely as you can. Do not try to insult or play with their feelings. Talk with respect, and refuse as nicely as you can.

 I-nitiate the date. If your online chatmate is giving you too many hints that he wants to go out with you, surprise him more by initiating the date. Be careful with this dating advice because it often does not work its magic when said during your first chat. Take it easy! Do not try to rush things or you will end up losing another dating opportunity, and we do not want that to happen.

 N-ames, names, more names. Okay, so you have been talking to a few more singles online, no big deal. But when you try to date exclusively, there goes the problem. If you think you have finally found someone, and have taken your relationship to the next intimate level, it is time to cancel your membership with these online dating sites. For those who have been chatting to five or more love interests at a time, make sure that you never confuse one from the other. Not only will this be awful—you could also be misinterpreted different ways. Attach some clues to their names or attributes so that you don’t end up losing any opportunity because of another foolish mistake.

 G-ive them reasons to be interested. An interesting person never ceases to give mystery and spice to every conversation he engages in different kinds of people. Try talking about yourself in a very limited fashion that will always make your potential date want to hear more from you. Keep interesting topics coming and you will be a day closer to meeting him. Good luck!

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