Oct 7

Many of us are shy talking to the opposite sex. That takes us no where. We are scared of talking to any person of opposite sex. Something happens that stops us. Why do we get scared? We are not scared of talking to persons of our own sex. We are confident about ourselves. We have enough self-esteem, and we value ourselves as desirable. Then why? It is as if there is a switch in the mind that is switched off and says no when it comes to talking with persons of opposite sex.

What can be done about this? This problem has to do with our mind. Our mind tells us that we are not worthy. We may be rejected. We may be laughed at. Our mind warns us to defend ourselves from this and says no - you are not to approach anyone from the opposite sex. This is the mechanism of mind. Fight or flight. In this case, we resort to flight. But with this running away, we will never get a desirable partner. We will always remain alone and only wistfully watch other couples going around. So what should we do?

The very first step in such cases is to evaluate our self and compare ourselves with our friends. Are we as smart as they are? Are we as intelligent as they are? Are we as confident as they are? Are we as presentable as they are? Is our personality equally good? On most of these issues you may find that you are scoring more points than your friends. So one thing is established. You are a desirable person. If your friends are not shy, why are you? Gather the strength and approach persons of opposite sex with confidence. Don’t worry about rejections. There can be many reasons for that. Approach smartly and you will surely get some one good to date. Good Luck.

Oct 7

If you are trying to pick up women online and just can’t get at least one date a week you certainly need a little help. Just read this article and start using these online flirting success tips and they will help you to get that first date much faster.

You don’t want to spend too much time online because you really can’t feel the chemistry until the first “real world” date. However, you can get the women you’re talking to to be interested in you and set her “on fire” just to get to know you better.

Keep in mind that women feel attraction for a very different set of reasons than men do. Where men focus more on looks, women focus more on personality, self esteem, power and confidence.

So, what are the secrets to get a date after one hour and 15 minutes of flirting online?

1. Make your replies simple and use easy questions. Concentrate on the conversation, not on getting a date. Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Most women want to know what kind of person they are going out with.

2. Women always fall for men who are a little bit unreachable. Think of yourself as special and know what you deserve.

3. Be yourself. The underlying key to all flirtation is confidence, the magical charm that makes others want to get to know you.

4. Be funny but in the same time a little bit arrogant. It creates a wonderful, entertaining challenge that women just love to engage in… If you make a naughty, fun comment, something she is NOT expecting, then something magical begins to happen: she feels a spark of attraction, curiosity, intrigue because you’re obviously different.

5. People like people who are interested in them. So when you engage someone in conversation make sure you spend at least 62% of the time listening to THEM!

6. When you are talking about you, tell enough just to get her trust but keep a little mystery about you.

7. Never ever make yourself to available. In one hour of online conversation you have to make her believe that you’re confident, that you’re intelligent and funny. Don’t stay any longer or you risk to become boring.

8. Find an excuse and just go, but not before you let her know that you’re interested in her. Set another online date but not for the next day. You are a busy guy! Let her heat up a little bit. :) 9. At the second date (online), after 15 minutes of talking, just say “Hey, I have some spare time this evening, can we meet? I just want to… convince myself that you are real.” This way, she will be surprised and won’t have to much time to make the decision and you will run less risk of being rejected.

If she is interested in you but she already has something fixed for that evening, she will ask for a date another time. If she don’t, just say, next!

Oct 7

We all desire meaningful friendships and relationships. Dating is often the means by which we develop such friendships, explore compatibility and consider continuing on into the future together.

Many parents don’t tell their children how to properly date, pursue courtship or even assess a future spouse. Is it any wonder we have such a difficult time doing all of the above.

Here are some Powerful Keys to Alleviate and Overcome Disappointment when Dating: 1. Make friends first and have safe fun. Maintain personal respect and don’t get too serious too soon. Don’t have unrealistic expectations.

2. Guard your heart and set boundaries. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you into something you don’t feel comfortable with.

3. Remember, your past does not determine your future. Though you may have been merely tolerated in your past, someone is going to exuberantly celebrate you in your future.

4. Refuse to erect emotional walls and be overly cautious. Love requires spontaneity and vulnerability. Don’t be afraid of getting disappointed. Strive to not disappoint yourself by limiting your relational opportunities by way of your own predispositions and erroneous assumptions.

5. Cultivate a love for yourself, which shall uphold you no matter what occurs in your relationships. Value and affirm yourself. Get rid of negative self talk and celebrate you today for no reason at all. You are special and that is enough reason!

6. When alone enjoy your season of soul-searching as you come to a greater level of self awareness. Discover and be established in your identity.

7. Identify your values and beliefs. Don’t deviate from them when assessing future relational compatibility. Remember what you tolerate will perpetuate and dominate.

8. Give yourself to personal growth, enrichment and new challenges. Take up a sport or hobby. Develop a new skill. Travel somewhere you’ve always dreamed of. Expand your mind.

9. Give others the benefit of the doubt and guard against seeing them through the eyes of your past relationships. Everybody deserves the right of being innocent before being assumed guilty.

10. Live wholeheartedly. Love fearlessly. Laugh joyously and attract new love expectantly. Smile! It improves the value of your face. Happy people are attractive people. Remember the sun always shines above the clouds. Lift up your head!

11. Set your intent as to what you want relationally and patiently wait believing that the universe itself will conspire to give you what you want when you don’t settle for less. Believe for the best and in the meantime be your best.

12. Remember what you are seeking is seeking you! You would not desire someone with such qualities unless they already existed. Rest assuredly in faith therefore that you will in due time discern and attract a perfect suitable to your needs and preferences. In the meantime, keep working on you!

13. Locate and position yourself appropriately to meet a person with your unique interests and values. Don’t just follow your friends wherever they go. Oranges don’t grow in Alaska no matter how many of their friends go there. Find what is of interest to you and purpose to get involved therein. Put yourself back into circulation and happily date again!

Your best days are ahead of you! You may be broken but breakthrough is on the way when you make a decision to live your best life now today!

Your friend and coach for success!

Oct 7

Dating has become more of a hassle than it’s worth. Everywhere you turn, you hear about how someone keeps looking and can’t find their Mr. or Mrs. Right. You would think with all of the different options out there that it would be easier, and not harder, to get a date in today’s world. But maybe the real issue is not that it is too hard to get a date, but maybe finding the right kind of person. Today, you don’t even have to leave your home to snag your next mate.

With the Internet and its millions of sites, all you have to do is take a seat and use your mouse to find someone. Of course, with the convenience comes a price. Anyone can pretend to be anyone or anything on the Internet. The guy with the picture of him posing for a body building competition, that you swear to yourself that you have just hit the jackpot with, turns out to either be very unattractive or maybe even a criminal. Not everyone is like this, but it seems to be more and more common. And what about the minors who pose as being much older than they really are?

There are several success stories out there of people meeting online through dating sites and even MySpace and ending up getting married. I’m sure that this is the thing that gives people hope that maybe they too can find love on the Net, but the odds probably aren’t with them. It’s much easier when you’ve seen the person face-to-face and know what that person looks and sounds like. Maybe some of the excitement that comes from dating on the Internet is the surprise factor. You never know what you’ll get. Maybe this time the person sitting on the other end of the computer will be the person of your dreams or you’ll get hooked up with someone who is rich. Surprises are a wonderful thing when they are good.

There are so many sites accessible by searching for your next fling or relationship. Some Internet sites even target specific races or persons who have a particular interest. There are online dating agencies by the thousands for friendship, romance, and even international brides. So why can’t single people find someone, if there are so many resources available to them? It’s no longer an old-fashioned dating scene, where you actually had to go up to someone and start a conversation. Nope, you can remain as anonymous as you want behind your computer screen. I think it is because it has become almost as a game. With so many people pretending to be someone else, rather than showing their true self, they will never allow themselves to find the right person. Also, with access to so many people, there are some that have in their mind that something better will come along any day now. These people can act as picky as they want, and know that they have the possibility of meeting millions of people throughout the world through the Internet.

Oct 7

Online dating is becoming very popular. Where as one used to look around for a prospective date through friends, one can now search for one online. Online dating offers different challenges and once you learn the art of online dating, you can get dream dates. Before you proceed further to read about success in online dating, note that facts given by people on online dating sites can be misleading. Verify the credentials and then enjoy your dating, because online dating offers a great variety of candidates.

Let us begin with your profile. Have you uploaded a smiling picture of yourself? A picture that truly represents who you are? Never upload a picture of yourself with another person. Let it be only yours and such that creates a positive impact. In your profile, have you mentioned all your positive qualities? Does your profile make you look like a desirable date? Without any lies, try to make your profile as attractive as possible.

What about writing mails to prospective dating partners? Do you copy paste a common mail and send to many at a time, or pay attention to each mail and try to make it as individual as possible. Bring some charm in your mails, so that the recipient feels that you are a genuine person looking forward to meet him/her. Mass mailing fails, because it always gives itself away.

Women, when you are dating for the first time, don’t give your home address or telephone number. Take your own vehicle and find out before hand where you will be meeting. Try to meet at a public place and avoid wearing very attractive outfits. Limit your conversation to basics and find out more about your male date. With little precaution, online dating can be a big success.

Men, try to make your lady date as comfortable as possible. Don’t act in any way that can give her different ideas. Let her feel that you are a thorough gentleman and she has nothing to worry from you. She will slowly open up. Remember that God has given us the instinct of protection. Don’t over do any thing during your first date so that the lady may feel uncomfortable. Slow and steady will win the race.

Oct 7

This is a very common problem for many of us. Getting dumped hurts a lot. But one wants to go back to good life as early as possible, if for nothing than to forget the earlier pain. But since the pain remains and the thought of being hit again is overwhelming, it becomes difficult to decide.

When should one go back to dating scene after getting dumped? The answer for this question will vary from individual to individual. If your earlier partnership lasted for few months, you can recover sooner, but if the earlier partnership lasted for some years, it takes a lot more time to get prepared mentally to go back to the dating scene. The old wounds take a lot more time to heal, and sometimes they may never heal. If at this point of time, you manage to get a dating partner who understands and helps you come out of the memories, you are very lucky.

When you seriously date someone, you get involved. You plan for the future and you are recognized as a regular date of that person amongst your friends. You also give your trust to that person. You care for him/her and make many sacrifices to keep the relationship going. You dream of a bright future ahead and even make every move with consultation. This makes you both very involved with each other. If at this point, you are dumped, you will take lot of healing to come over the bitterness. You might have lost your faith in the opposite sex. So what is to be done?

Involve yourself with your work. Take up a new hobby. Make new friends. Join a club. Go around and enjoy the nature. And whenever you feel the pain of earlier love, feel it intensely. It does not help to push those feelings behind. They will remain there to resurface again. So feel every pain and cry over the loss if necessary. Express the anger and the bitterness. Cleanse yourself as much as possible of the memories.

After you are sure that you have regained your emotional stability, go back to the dating scene. If you find some one interesting with understanding, tell all after few meetings and ask for help and love in return of love. God willing, you will get it.

Oct 7

If you are currently single and you want to position yourself for the dating circuit, you must first reflect on what type of dating you prefer to attempt. In this contemporary and technological age, there are two styles of dating to choose from. Traditional dating and internet dating.

What does online dating and traditional dating have to offer? 1) If you are successful in catching promising dates on a routine basis, utilizing a traditional dating approach, you may not need to try online dating. However, if you often have difficulty getting a date in real time, you may find success by using an internet dating service.

2) Time is Precious. The majority of single people consider their time to be very valuable. If a busy and stressful daily life captures you, you will not have much time to go out to social events and meet new people. Internet dating saves you time and energy by serving as a filter prior to you even meeting anyone directly.

3) Trouble with location. Location will never be a complication for traditional dating, because most of the time, you get acquainted with your date at parties, social events, and other activities throughout the city. Although internet dating gives you the chance to meet up with new individuals from all parts of the globe, it could be a hassle trying to get you and your date together, especially when both of you are located on opposite sides of the planet.

4) A blind date from Hell. Have your friends, at any time, attempted to set you up on a date that you had no hint or clue who the person was? If you are numbered along with the many others who dislike this form of traditional dating, you would probably appreciate using an online dating service. By way of the internet, you have the opportunity to get to know someone prior to meeting them face to face. By becoming acquainted with your date ahead of time, you would be able to determine the likelihood of a smooth dialogue and compatibility when you make contact with the person.

5) Discovering Your dream partner. Normally ,when you meet a person in a bar, party or social event, the chief feature that attracts you to them are their physical characteristics. You may not know their place of birth, their goals in life or personality upon the first introduction. In internet dating, you maintain the priviledge to search for credible and reliable dates who have the same interest, religion, location, temperament, and situation as yourself. There is a greater possibility that you will find that special mate who would complement you the most for a lifetime.

6) Cost efficient. Unlike meeting your date for a dinner meal or coffee tea outing, online dating can be more cost effective than traditional dating. However, some make the mistake of spending too much time on long distance telephone calls which could also become very costly for those practicing internet dating or traditional dating.

In whatever style of dating you determine is more appropriate for you, always be cautious in giving out personal and private information to a person who is, in all honesty, still a stranger. Be certain that your date is genuinely safe and all right. He could either be the person of your dreams - or your worst nightmare and enemy.

Oct 7

If single women over 30 had a dime for every time they heard this from their oldest living relative, they might be rich! Although your older relatives might sincerely think this to be true, it is not. While many singles choose to get married before they are 30, there are thousands who wait until their mid 30s to tie the not. Those who are working toward their second marriage may be even older than 30 when they remarry. So, you can see that no matter how old you are, there are other singles out there that are your age or older.

The old relatives that love to make you feel horrible about your age and being single are only trying to get under your skin. So the best thing you can do to offset their negative efforts is to address them head on with the truth. Tell them that you are an independent woman who knows what she wants and won’t settle for less like they did. This will be enough to get them off your back for a while.

Hearing people say things like no one wants a woman over 30 can really reduce your own self esteem. Just know that just because you are single at 30 does not mean you will be single forever. It simply means you are still waiting for the right man to come along!

Oct 7

You may find comfort in knowing you are not the only single person in the world. As a matter of fact, with the marriage age going up each year, there are more single people than ever! So, when you hear your friends and family screaming “What are you waiting for?” you shouldn’t worry. The likely reason they are harping about the issue of marriage is because they are married and want you to be like them. Sure, they may say they only want you to be happy, but there is no reason an adult can’t be happy being single as well.

Remember that the most important thing is to make sure you wait for the person who you really want to spend the rest of your life with. You should wait until you are ready to get married as well. Even if are in a relationship and think he or she may be “the one”, you should wait until you both are comfortable with being married.

When your friends and family ask why you are waiting so long to get married, remind them of the current divorce rate in the world. Tell them that unlike the negative statistics, you want to be sure you are giving your future marriage the best chance to last. By waiting until you are fully prepared, you cannot guarantee your marriage will last forever, but you can be doing your part to be sure you are starting with the best intentions.

Oct 7

Would it surprise you to learn that there are about 100 million singles in the U.S.? Considering this, why can it be so hard to land a date, let alone a life partner? Sadly, finding your soul mate is hardly an easy task. So today, countless men and women are turning to the internet to find their one and only. In fact, it is estimated that close to 34 million people will log on to an online dating site this year.

The most attractive element about online dating is, without doubt, the anonymity. Clearly, it is easier to promote yourself online than in person because there is no need to feel embarrassed or shy if one is shrouded by a computer screen. In addition, if someone does not enjoy reading a profile, they simply move on with a click of the mouse and no one is the wiser. It is that simple.

Of course, anonymity comes with a price, albeit a manageable one. The best internet dating sites are hyper secure and are serious about their members’ safety. For example, your site should explain your screening process which may involve checking for felony convictions and whether someone is already married. The penalties for violating these rules should be posted and your company should never hesitate to follow through with the punishments. You can even offer a list of “warning signs” so your members can spot a potential threat.

But the main attractions to a dating website are the detailed profiles and the interactive tools. The best sites include multiple color photos, dating tips and success stories, emails and instant messaging, links to current articles about relationships and more.

Will your members be matched according to a certain attributes (like www.eharmony.com or www.match.com) or will they simply scroll through the listings until someone catches their eye? The possibilities are really quite endless.

How can you be sure that singles will be attracted to your website? Well, if you have all the hot elements and an easy-to-use, appealing layout, they will come. Finding friendship and love is an inherent part of our lives; we simply cannot live without it. Therefore, we will do all we can to make connections and see that they stick. What’s more, with so many folks living harried, over-scheduled lives, there is not much time for old fashioned dating that can take hours away from your evenings. Logging on to a fun, safe, and convenient site makes so much more sense.

A site that has the following elements is bound to succeed:

  • detailed profiles that can be updated at any time
  • color photos
  • a search feature that highlights specific criteria
  • ways to keep track of all contacts
  • online journal to record thoughts and experiences
  • success stories and tips from “Dating Experts”

There is no question that internet dating is the way of the future; the trend shows no sign of slowing down (www.eharmony.com boasts over 10,000 new users each day!). So whether you are looking to help individuals find friendship or something deeper, becoming part of the virtual love community is the way to go.

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