Oct 4

1. If you’ve connected with someone through an online dating service or a matchmaking agency, take time to get to know the individual before you agree to meet the person face-to-face. Converse on the telephone and e-mail for a couple of weeks. This should give you a better idea as to whether you would feel comfortable meeting this individual in-person.
2. Consider setting up an e-mail account just for use with “matches” referred by these services. This limits your need to provide any further personal details to your “match” until your instinct tells you this is someone you can trust. Another option is to use “call block” on your phone if you prefer the other party not know your phone number until you get to know him/her better. It’s perfectly fine to take your time.
3. Meet your introduction in-person when you’re ready. Remember, even if you decide to meet, you have the right to change your mind.
4. When you do decide to meet face-to-face, meet in a public area with a defined time limit—this should be “a must” for everyone on a first date, unless they already know the person.
5. Provide your own transportation there and back and always let someone know your whereabouts. Be sure to check in when you return home.
6. Get to know this person fairly well before revealing all your personal details, including your home and work addresses. If your date won’t take no for an answer or tries to pressure you for any kind of personal information that you don’t feel comfortable sharing, please find a reason to leave.
7. Take note of your date’s behavior with others; i.e. rude, impatient, etc., as this can serve as a warning as to how your date could eventually treat you.
8. Carry a cell phone with or be sure to have some spare change for the phone. If you find yourself becoming uncomfortable, find an excuse to call home or your family and then tell your date that you’re sorry but you have to leave. And don’t feel guilty for leaving early.
9. Be responsible. Don’t become prematurely intimate with someone you’ve just met—no matter how much the hormones are sending you another message. Pace yourself. Get to know the person first. And if or when the time comes when you both feel ready to become intimate, act responsibly. Practice safe sex. Use a condom.
10. Watch for these red flags:

* Your date fails to provide you with direct answers.
* The information your date is providing is inconsistent with what the two of you have previously discussed.
* Your date asks to borrow money from you. Please use common sense or you risk getting taken in.
* Your date shares his/her financial hardships, therefore, inclining you to offer him/her some money.
* Your date only pays in cash on each of your dates. [Books on how to know if your partner is having an affair warn that this could be a sign that your partner is married.]

11. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s usually because it isn’t. Trust your instincts—go with your gut feeling.
12. If you’re on a date and become worried about your safety, don’t take any chances. Find a reason to leave and/or ask the nearest person to call the police.

Safety and common sense go hand-in-hand. You are ultimately in control of your dating experience. Take the time to be informed and to be safe.

Oct 1

If you are just getting into the world of online dating and don’t know its finer points, then the following tips should be of help:

1. Be sure to have a nickname that attracts interest. Don’t try to be too sexy or hints at marriage, a little finesse goes a long way. A nickname that uses your own name is best avoided. A nickname based on your looks may prove appealing to men.

2. Be patient, at first you may be tempted to send e-mails to all the attractive member of the opposite sex with your zip code. But if you are a little patient you my find that some of those will contact you first. If anyone you are attracted to doesn’t get in contact with you, send them a short e-mail and then wait for them to respond.

3. On the first date be a little cautious about the questions you answer. Don’t give your date any information about your income or any past relationships. Do not rush in and tell them how much you want to get married!

4. Always have more than one photograph in your résumé, initially men find the visual aspect much more attractive. If you post plenty of photos, a potential date will get a better idea about how you look and whether you may be his type, before they meet you.

5. If some one will not send you a photograph, forget them, they may not have something to hide, but why take a chance.

6. If a person only sends you his picture or his profile may not be worth a response. It is better if they send you an email as well.

7. Be patient wait at least 24 hours before you reply to your date’s e-mail. If you get back to them too quickly, they may get the impression that you are too desperate.

8. Don’t log on to your personal website or answer e-mails on a Friday or Saturday. You want to give the impression you are popular and not available on the weekend.

9. If someone does not respond, stop e-mailing them. If they really want to meet you, they will contact you and ask you out for a date. Don’t appear to keen.

10. If someone doesn’t ask you out after several e-mails you need to reassess where the relationship is going. Keep mentioning that you are going out with friends and if they cannot take a hint it may be best to stop all communication with them.

11. Usually emails are quite short but this is one of those times when there is no need to keep them short. Getting a short three-line email can seem strange or even rude to someone who has sent you a long e-mail.

Sep 26

Many of us start our relationship with love. But after some time you may feel that something is changed, that routine is getting in your relationship. That doesn’t mean that the love is gone but you have to do something to keep your love alive.

Relationships are difficult to sustain. We all want to have a relationship that works. Happiness is the primary need of all of us. To make your relationship work , being like before, and also to not lose your partner you should start by showing her that you really care, to impress her with something every day.

It is important to show people that we care. While big and extravagant gifts are one way, it is the small things that we do everyday that are the most important. You don’t need to be creative, have a big budget or heaps of bright ideas to show someone that you care.

Here are some helpful tips you may use to show her that you care, tips to impress her and show that you love her like the beginning.

Surprise her in the morning by making her coffee and bring her breakfast at the bed. If you didn’t done this before you will definitely surprise her in a positive way. This is good way to start your day by being spoiled.

Propose her to make the shower together because you didn’t do it for a long time. Show her that you make time for her and it’s no problem if you get late at work sometimes. Spending some time with her is much important even if you have a lot of work today.

Bring home roses for no reason at all. You don’t need a special reason to buy her flowers to show how much you love her. Your intentions will be appreciated and the message will be better understood.

Be sensitive and carrying. Ask her if is something wrong if you see that she is a little upset. Listen to her and try to make her smile again. Remember her that you’ll pass all the problems together.

Don’t forget to compliment her sometimes and tell her she’s beautiful like in the first day you met. It’s good to hear that you still like how she looks.

Ask if there’s anything you can do in the house even if you didn’t do it again. Ask her if you can help with something, and sometimes do a little cleaning even she doesn’t ask you to do it. Notice the things that are missing and go shopping them without ask her. She will be very surprised that you care about the house and offer to help her.

Remember anniversary and birthday. A woman always know this dates, but men are usually forget this, aren’t too important for them. That’s why she will be impressed and very happy to see that you are a carrying man and remember your anniversary.

Prepare her a romantic weekend that she doesn’t expect to. Go away to spend a romantic weekend with your partner only you two, somewhere away from home where nobody can reach and disturb you. It’s the perfect place and chance to re alive the love between you two.

Once you begin to pay attention to what brings her pleasure and happiness, you’re on your way to being a true romantic. The thing to keep in mind is that romance is about her desires, not yours. Your satisfaction comes from watching her joy.

Sep 3

Internet Dating is now well established as one of the most effective ways to find people with similar geographical locations, interests and values that are also looking for someone to love. A few safety precautions are essential to protect you from people that are determined to spoil the fun. Here are a few internet dating safety tips that are worth a close look.

1. Keep your personal information personal. Do not give out your last name, address or home phone number to people that you chat with on the internet. Giving out a little too much information can leave you wide open for harassment, stalking, identity theft or worse. When you feel ready to move from communicating by email to talking by phone use a cell phone not your land line phone at home. Using a cell phone gives you the opportunity to get to know someone with out giving up your home address.

2. If you decide to meet in person, do not have your date pick you up at your house. Plan to meet in a public, well populated and well lit place. Always conceal your address until you are confident that your new friend is safe.

3. Consider taking a friend with you on your initial meeting or have them check in with you on your cell phone. Set up code words that will let them know that you are either OK or need help to get out of there. At the very least, let someone know where you are going and when you expect to return. Give them the name, phone number, address and description of your date.

4. Don’t go to your date’s home or invite them to your home until after several public meetings have taken place. Also, drive separately.

5. Trust your gut. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, there is probably a good reason. Don’t trivialize good old fashioned instinct and dismiss it as nerves. If you don’t feel comfortable end the date early, don’t divulge any personal information and do not arrange a second date.

6. Don’t let your email give you away. For greater anonymity only use the email account that came with your internet dating service membership instead of your personal email address. Also, don’t use your first or last names in the from line on your emails.

7. Be alert to married people masquerading as singles. Dating these individuals will often lead to heartache for both you and their families.

8. Request a recent photo. It should raise a big, fat, cautionary, red flag If you meet the person and they do not match their photo or you can tell that the photo is very old.

9. Read between the lines. When you chat or exchange emails with a potential date, do they avoid certain questions, seem controlling or display other characteristics that may not be desirable?

10. Use a paid internet dating service. Free services often do not require a credit card or other verifiable information that would make it possible to identify a problem member.

These common sense internet dating tips should help you protect yourself from online predators. There are many great people out there who are fun, honest and safe so don’t let a few bad apples stop you from finding the love of your life.

Sep 2

Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women but men need to be concerned as well. Perverts, sexual predators and weirdos come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters. So men need to stay on guard, too.

It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers. The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it. You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That “something” will not be for your benefit. Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment. Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.

Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.

If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware. If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

Aug 28

Want to approach the woman of your dreams. I grew up around a lot of women from sisters to aunts. Basically, All women from the information that I have receive from my female relatives are basically the same. Here are some tips that are sure to make every attempt a successful one.

1. Eye Contact- If you want to make a good first impression when you are talking to a woman, make sure you make eye contact. This means the woman that you are talking to should have all of your attention.

2. Confidence- Several woman attest to the fact that they love a confident man. Confidence is not showcasing several facts about you that you think will impress her. Confidence is knowing and showing that you have no insecurities about who you are or what you have.

3.Smile and Make Jokes- Most woman just want to have fun. So, when you approach her. Laugh at her jokes. Make jokes of your own. “Break the ice” by laughing and showing that you are having a good time. For those of you how lack the creativity to create jokes or too embarrassed to do so, just laugh at her jokes and make her feel like she is the world’s best comedian.

4.Ask questions- This is by far the most important of them all. When you are talking to a woman, ask questions about her or her opinions on certain topics. It doesn’t matter what its about just make sure you listen to her. Women are very intuitive individuals. She will know if you are not listening.

Aug 19

Today I just met a guy who was so attractive, only to be lost for words and have him walk away when I had nothing to say. I was devastated! And then, just when I thought I couldn’t feel any worse, up came a guy who, well, let’s just say I would never be interested in him! He started talking and, to my surprise, I found myself talking easily with him. It was then that the worst thing happened. I looked up to find that dreamy guy looking my way and seeing me wrapped up in conversation. No!

How many times has this happened to you? Why is it that we feel like we always kill off our opportunities? Why couldn’t I have had the easy conversation with the guy that mattered?

What if it could be that way? What if we could always get rid of the losers and get the guy?

Of course I could start by suggesting having a drink before you go out, but creating a crutch like that is hardly helpful (and won’t help you keep the guy!).

Friends weren’t much use either, they said if I wanted to get the guy for me rather than get the losers I just had to be more positive, I just had to relax, or whatever.

I tried meditation. I tried many healing techniques, and they all had their place, but still nothing was working.

Finally though I found something that could really help me get rid of the losers and get the guy for me.

Here’s my secret. I studied some basic hypnosis techniques. (No, it’s nothing like what you see if you go to a stage show!) The short story is that slowly but surely, as I learned new techniques, people seemed to give me more respect! I was more relaxed, and before I knew it I actually did land the guy for me! It was incredible. I have never looked back, and now I can look forward - to wedding bells in June!

I hope you can find the same joy as you travel on your journey

Aug 11

If you want to know how to create conversations with sexy women… that cause them to feel attraction toward you… then this is going to be a very exciting read.

In this article I am going to examine the best kinds of conversation with sexy women to have. I will show you how talking to beautiful women differs in one very important way from chatting with average babes. Then I will give you exact techniques you can use in your very next encounter with a hot babe. When you finish this article you will know how to have conversation with sexy women.

Know this: sexy women are approached every day and engaged in conversation. At a a party it is common for 5,10 or even 20 men to try to seduce her in one way or another.

That’s the bad news. The good news is that their conversation with sexy women is weak, ineffective, and downright pathetic. Here’s how it typically plays out. Man sees hot woman. Man approaches hot women. Tells her she’s hot. Asks to buy her a drink.


That’s the wrong type of conversation. With sexy women, you can’t give her a hollow compliment, and then try to buy her attraction. So how should you’re conversation be? Well, in order to make sexy women feel attraction toward you, you must communicate four things instantly. You need to show her you are confident, interesting, intelligent, and powerful. How do you do that?

Here’s the secret: There is a certain kind of statement you can make which can accomplish all four of these things at once… it’s the conversation with sexy women you need to be making. The formula is arrogant humor. Know this: you can get away with almost anything you say in a conversation with a sexy women, as long as she is generally laughing, smiling and having a good time.

Enough theory. Let’s get into examples of real conversation. With sexy women who wear very high heels, you can say something like, “Wow, those are tall shoes. I bet you’re 4′7” when you take them off.” You’re making fun of her, aren’t you? Yet, you did it in a humorous way. Sexy women are not used to being made fun of ever… And if they are the butt of jokes, they usually aren’t laughing. But with statements like these you have communicated your confident, and also witty.

And you’ve done one other with thing this type of conversation. With sexy women, there is one thing they deeply crave, and rarely get - a challenge. In her mind she will think, “Wow, he’s different. Kind of charming, but is he really serious? Let’s see if I can get him to cave, then I’ll quit talking to him.” You have now changed her thinking. She’s used to being in power when being approach by men. Now she’s fighting for that power… all the while laughing and trying to figure out if you’re serious or not. This is a great place to find yourself when having a conversation with a sexy woman.

So how do you learn how to make these arrogant yet humorous statements? Easy. Think about common situations you find yourself in where there are beautiful women. Come up with cocky statements related to these situations. Then add a touch of humor on the end of these statements. Next, mentally rehearse them in your mind until you have them down. After that, simply experiment with them on different sexy women. Find out what works and what you are comfortable with.

Aug 10

Many men everyday are looking for free advice on how to approach women. In this article I will show the three best ways to approach women and get their number, email or even a date with them. Specifically I will show you the direct method, the buddy system and the “stack the deck” trick. By following the free advice on how to approach women in this article, you should increase your number of dates easily.

The best free advice on how to approach women I can give is the simple direct approach. It has a specific aim and goal to it, which I will describe to you. But first, you must understand the philosophy behind the technique, otherwise the technique won’t work.

A long time ago I was experimenting with different ways to pick up women. I found a problem. I could spend a majority of my time working on one woman, build rapport with her, initiate interesting conversations, etc. Bu, it took too much time, and if it didn’t work I went home that night with nothing.

Out of desperation, I came up with a solution. I would develop a way to approach many women in one night where I could get their contact information. Then later, at my own convenience throughout the week, I could set up dates with all of them.

here’s my best free advice on how to approach women: First, I walk up and say, “Hey, you seem interesting. I’d like to talk with your more, but I don’t have a lot of time right now.”

As I say this, I pull out my pen and pad. “You have email, don’t you? What’s your email address?”

This works for a number of reasons. First of all it is novel. I want you to think about how many times a day an attractive woman gets approached. I would guess at least 5 times every day!

But never like this.

Secondly, it’s not so much what you say that works, but it’s how you are saying it. You need to deliver those lines with the assumption that you will get her contact information. That is why you already are pulling the pen out and beginning to write the number down.

Here’s the typical results. If you do this at a party with 10 different women, you’ll get 6 to 8 to give you their email or phone number. Then, through follow up you should be able to easily arrange 3 to 4 dates for the following week. Not bad, huh? But why stop at just 10 women?

Here is some more free advice on how to approach women. I call this method the buddy system. Get a friend to go out with you. You are going to help each other approach women. Take turns approaching women with this line:

“Hey you seem like a fun girl. I have a friend who I think you’d be perfect for. Let me introduce you to him.” Take turns doing this for each other. There is something about using a middle man to diffuse the situation that makes approaching women for the first time a lot less tense. And if she is more comfortable, it is that much easier to flirt with her and get to like you.

The final approach is the “stack the deck” approach. If you are too timid for the direct approach or if you can’t get a friend for the buddy system, then all is not lost. Here’s what you do. Sign up for a cooking class, or any sort of class where there is a large number of women and a few number of men.

Cooking classes work good because you can use it as an excuse to approach women. Why? Because you’re a man, and stereotypically you are not as good of a cook. So you need her help, right? This is some great free advice on how to approach women without having to worry about rejection.

So there you are, three of my favorite bits of free advice on how to approach women. Are there other tricks? Sure, I got a whole collection of them I have used over the years. I recommend you try these three out, as well as others you read about and come up with. And who knows? You might get so good at this that soon you will be giving me the free advice on how to approach women.

Aug 1

My husband works with two guys whose girlfriends continually check their cell phones for evidence of communication with other women. He has another friend–a man I know well–whose wife regularly checks his cell phone to see if he’s cheating (he would never). The guys at work have complained to my husband about this surveillance, and they’ve asked his advice.

His first question was, “Are you cheating?”

Each fellow replied, “Absolutely not.”

My husband told the single guys, “These situations don’t usually improve with time. You might want to reconsider the relationship.”

As for the married friend whose wife monitors his activities, well, I can’t tell you how many times he’s walked into his kitchen to find her going through his call list, muttering, “Who the hell is Mary Smith!” (She’s usually a woman from one of the offices he visits in the course of his job.)

Interestingly, a lot of guys who cheat don’t even use their ‘regular’ cell phones; they get a second one. This woman is really wasting her time.

The sad thing is, her husband loves her. He’s loyal to her. She is destroying their relationship with her lack of trust. The idea of leaving her has crossed his mind.

Face it: falling–and being–in love can be scary. You’re putting your happiness and emotional well-being in the hands of another person. But relationships require trust.

Perhaps these women feel compelled to surveil their partners because other men have hurt them, or because they’ve seen too much infidelity on TV. It doesn’t matter. It’s self-destructive.

Determine whether you can trust a guy based on his behavior. Do his words match his actions, for example? Does he lie (to you, to his parents, his sister, his boss)?

If the guy’s a liar, you’ll find out without resorting to extreme methods.

Liars do not make good boyfriends (or husbands). If you make it a policy not to date them, you will sleep well and your fingernails will grow long and strong.

I know because I’ve been there.