Jul 31

You may be too busy in your day to day life to date the traditional way or you may be tired of the whole bar scene and are looking for a new alternative. Online dating is a great substitute for traditional dating because you can expand your options from the local people in your area to people all around the world and all in less time than offline dating.

But what website can you trust? How do you make a good profile? Where do you even begin? Not to worry, here are three tips to online dating success.

1. Find an Online Dating Service That’s Right For You

There are hundreds, even thousands of online dating websites to choose from all over the internet. With tons of choices to choose from you may become paralyzed with confusion. There many types of dating services out there, but as you browse through a sample of the selection think about which one is right for you. Go to online dating forums and search for feedback on various dating websites. Sometimes a well known online dating service won’t exactly fit what you’re seeking. Notice what kind of people are at this service and what they are seeking.

2. Create a Truthful Profile

Always be truthful when creating a profile and spell out exactly what you’re looking for. You don’t want everyone and anyone to reply to you so don’t create a vague profile. Spell out your needs and wants. You’ll attract people who want the same thing. Also, always be truthful. Don’t lie about your age, weight or any other personal information. Despite what you think there are people like you paying the online dating game too. Misleading people will only waste your time.

3. Imagine the Perfect Profile

As you browse through profiles keep in mind what you’re looking for. Are you looking for a long term relationship or something else? Think about what this person you’re looking for look like. Imagine their personality, their interests, etc… If you lay the groundwork on the type of person you’re looking for before you play the online dating game you’ll have an easier time finding them and you’ll be more aware of the person you’re searching for.

If you take enough time to find an online dating service which fits you, create a profile that gets the kind of attention you want and imagine the person you’re looking for before you search than you make the online dating game easier for yourself and more fun than traditional dating.

Jul 31

Online dating has become a new social trend. I have seen many friends found their loved on on the internet through online dating services. There has been many discussions about online dating services, is it good or is it bad? Well, I think it is hard to draw to a conclusion. In this article, let’s discuss about how you can choose online dating services to minimize the risk. To select an online dating services, you must first know what kind of relationship you are looking for. You might be serious want to find a lifelong partner to start a family or you just want to find someone to chat to kill some of your boring time at home. You must know it well such that you can know what type of online dating services to look for.

Secondly, I can say almost all online dating services require you to enter or write something about your criteria on your desired partner. You must think about age, height, personality, hobby, occupation, location, education level. lauguage… etc etc. It is good to put in as precise as you can such that you can find someone closer to your search.

Subsequently, how much are you willing to spend for the online dating services? Or you prefer it to be totally FREE. This is an important criteria you must think about as it affect the selection of your online dating services company.

Now, go Google to enter your criteria and write down the top 10-20 potential online dating services you are interested in. But before signing up for any of them, it might be good you ask around for some feedbacks first. You can ask you friends or you can also read some reviews online to determine the service level.

Once you have decided on the dating service, try to take advantage of the free sign up and free trial to explore and test the services first during the first week of sign up. There are many dating services company offers refund during the first week. So, it is important you are comfortable with the service during the first week before continuing to socialise in the site.

The few guides and tips above are some discussion about online dating services you can use as a reference. There are indeed may found their loved one on the internet nowadays and I hope this discussion about online dating services will be useful for you to start your romance online. All the best!

Jul 31

As some who gives relationship advice for a living, I’m often asked, “Do you need to focus on your profile to succeed in online dating? Yes! Success in online dating is due in large part to the ability to write a good profile that captures the interest of others. In the online universe, the words you use give others indications about what you are like, therefore the language you utilize carries great importance. Don’t let that deter you, however, because writing your online profile should be fun! Here are some tips and tricks you can use to get you noticed by potential suitors, and weed out the undesirables. Getting Started

At this stage, it is important that you spend the time and effort to get it right the first time. First, always read the site’s guidelines, as they often provide useful tips and other important information. In fact, many online dating sites such as eharmony.com, Lavalife.com, Match.com, and Chemistry.com utilize questionnaires in order to help you create your profile. Use a word processing program enables you to save your work and cut and paste your profile. Not only does this method provide access to a spell checker but it’s highly useful when registering for multiple online dating services.

Tip: Remember, There’s No Such Thing As Good Writing, Only Rewriting!

Be prepared to tweak and edit your profile as necessary. Have a friend who knows you well, and whose judgment you trust, read it and provide feedback. Ask yourself, if I were a stranger reading this for the first time, what would I think of this person? In addition, getting feedback from someone who doesn’t know you so well can be equally helpful. There’s no need to blindly follow their advice, but occasionally input can be highly instructive. Also, keep in mind that you may need to alter your description until you begin to get good matches from potential suitors who match your needs. Most importantly, cut yourself some slack - don’t expect perfection on the first attempt.

Tip: Choosing An Appropriate Username

Your username is important because it says a lot about you. Unfairly or not, monikers such as “Player69″ or “Shygirl” carry certain assumptions. Tip: Use a name which is meaningful and says something about you, or something relatively anonymous such as Liz123. As you can tell, names that say something about you are much more likely to get attention from people potentially interested in the same things. NOTE: For privacy and security reasons, avoid using personal information such as address, age, phone number, or date of birth in your new name.

Headline Listings

Headline listings should be upbeat and catchy, with the goal being to prompt interested parties to click on your profile in order to learn more about you.

Profile Length

A profile which is too long tends to be a turn-off and readers will often not bother to finish reading it. On the other hand, a profile that is too short probably doesn’t offer an accurate reflection of you. Therefore, find a happy medium.

Photos

Perhaps unfairly, most people usually don’t respond to profiles without one. NOTE: post a relatively flattering photo of yourself. Recently, I noticed someone posted a photo of himself on one of the major online dating sites that clearly showed him soaked with armpit sweat - yuck! In my opinion, natural photos are best, as overly posed studio shots tend not to look as sincere.

Audio

If the site offers the ability to record or upload audio files, try it. Hearing someone’s voice can be a useful barometer of attraction. After all, if you spot a hottie but discover they sound like Hannibal Lecter, you might think twice! If you don’t know what to say, try reading your favorite song lyrics, poem, or a meaningful book passage. Or simply say “hello!”

Tip: Be Original and Be Yourself

Don’t get caught up comparing your profiles to others, just be yourself. Resist the temptation to view online dating as a competition; your time is best spent on browsing profiles of potential prospects that interest you, and tweaking your own profile by further adding things that interest you.

Many profiles lists descriptions such as funny, bright, and interesting, but these are relatively meaningless to most readers. A better method is to prove it by making those descriptions self-evident in your profile. A funny profile will say about you then simply mentioning that you have a good sense of humor. If you enjoy films or music, talk about your favorites. Telling people why you love a certain film says much more about you than “I like movies.” By adding your distinct personality to everything you write, you will ultimately generate sincere interest.

Also, talk about who you are as a person, do not focus on occupation and appearance. One of the best pieces of relationship advice I’ve ever heard is this: When meeting someone for the first time, ask them what they like to do for fun because that says MUCH more about a person than what they do for a living. As a culture, we get hung up on the superficial, and we would all benefit from letting this go of this bad habit.

Tip: Be Positive

Avoid anything self-deprecating remarks, or anything negative, in your profile. Remember, self-confidence is one of the largest attractors.

Tip: Deal Breakers

Do mention things that are absolute no-nos. For example, if you really dislike cats to the extent that you couldn’t date someone who owned one, it’s advisable mention it. Similarly, if there are certain moral or religious beliefs that you hold dear, that determine whether whether you’d date someone, make sure you mention them. (Don’t do this in a negative fashion, however, keep it positive.) This helps to avoid time-wasting situations of spending time with someone only to discover inevitable fundamental incompatibilities.

Tip: Avoid Cliches

Never write bland statements such as “I like pizza.” It’s mostly meaningless and says little of significance about you. After all, most people like pizza! As an alternative, describe things that are important to you. Rather than saying “I love my friends,” describe a road trip you once took with your buddies, or a recent girls night out, and include some funny photos. Remember, the idea is to give an overall picture of your personality.

Tip: Be Honest

People are making choices based on what you say, and will only feel let down when they discover the truth. Don’t create the profile of a wealthy jet-setter if you are not one in real life - you’re just wasting your time. On a related note, don’t put people off by telling them your entire life story. There is such a thing as being TOO honest. If that’s the case, keep it short and learn to understate any potential negatives. For example, “I love shopping for antiques” or “I collect baseball cards” sounds much better than “I spend every weekend shopping non-stop in order to collect as many as possible.”
 

Jul 31

This concept was liberally borrowed from Esquire’s 10 Things You Don’t Know About Women. It’s not relationship advice. It’s light comedy, built heavily on cliche and stereotypes. The readers at Yahoo! nearly crashed their comments section with their thoughts on either how amusing or how offensive this is. If you’re in the second category, you should probably not be reading this blog. Really. I won’t take it personally. Anyway, here are 12 Things Women May Not Want to Know About What Men Think…

1. Getting angry at us for not reading your mind is like getting angry at yourself for not being able to fly. It’s not just futile, it’s physically impossible.

2. Yes, we do think Jessica Alba is hot. Sometimes we’re even dumb enough to admit it.

3. Don’t ask us to understand your shoe fetish. Asking us to respect it is even sort of pushing it.

4. You do look good without makeup, just not as good as you look with it.

5. Ever notice how we don’t fight with our male friends? That’s why we get so frustrated when we fight with you.

6. You care what you’re wearing infinitely more than we do. In fact, if you’re naked when you open the front door, you won’t hear an argument from us.

7. You don’t like to get hit on in public, you don’t want to date online and you don’t want to be set up on blind dates. Tell us if sending messenger pigeons is an appropriate way of courting. Because if it is, we’re all over it.

8. There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us. I propose 24 hours.

9. Cooking dinner for a man is like buying flowers for a woman, except it takes a lot more time, effort and thought for you to do it. Thanks. We appreciate it.

10. We actually like your girly pet-names for us, but please, not in front of the guys!

11. Just because we like looking at the women in Maxim doesn’t mean we want to actually converse with the women in Maxim. Not for long, anyway.

12. Your nice guy friends are the most reliable source for telling you if your new boyfriend’s a jerk. And he probably is. (By the way, you might want to consider marrying that nice guy who’s giving you advice about the jerk.

Jul 30

Dating in the 21st century, according to recent research, is rapidly becoming a matter of people meeting through an online dating agency and courting long-distance, or at least out of sight from one another, until they are comfortable enough to pursue an actual face-to-face meeting. The sun is slowly setting (or rising?)on nights of bar and club hopping, and “getting out there” in the hope that Ms. or Mr. Wonderful would happen to stroll in and perch on the adjoining bar stool. How often did that really happen? An online dating agency, on the other hand, is conveniently located at the end of your Internet connection, and its members can spend as much time as they like getting to know one another without worrying if someone better-looking will come through the door and ruin their evening. And they do all of it either for free or for a nominal monthly fee.

The Chat Room

Another feature of an online dating agency is its chat room; many people hook up in the chat rooms rather than corresponding by e-mail, which is not as spontaneous. Online dating agencies also have webcam features, which allow members to view each other in real time, but fewer than ten percent of online dating agency members take advantage of this feature. Most people, it appears, prefer not to let themselves be seen until they are confident about the intentions of those with whom they are communicating.

Research indicates the one out of every five people who started relationships through an online dating agency were still involved with the same person twelve months later; and that statistic, somewhat surprisingly, matches the number of those who were together a year after starting to date in the traditional manner. Even more impressively, almost 95% of all those who have one face-to-face meeting after connecting through an online dating agency will have at least one more face-to-face meeting.

It Works For The Guys

But perhaps the most surprising finding of all was that the men who use an online dating agency are more determined to establish a long-term relationship than the women. Men indicated that the online dating agency chat room was an ideal setting in which to share their deeper feelings and become comfortable in a relationship before actually meeting the other person.

The idea of meeting a life partner through an online dating agency may still seem like a long shot to millions of people, but research indicates that the chances of it happening online are growing, as more and more people turn to the Internet in their search for true live.

Jul 30

When it comes to dating, there is nothing wrong with being shy, yet a more outgoing person is usually most likely to attract a wider-scope of dating interests. Depending on whom you come in contact with, shyness is sometimes perceived as classy, while others see it as a sign of weakness. In many cases, men and women suffer “the one that got away” simply because they were too shy to make the first move or effectively respond to flirting. Overall, it is important to remember that shyness is an emotion and does not become a permanent part of your personality….unless you want it. In the dating scene, there is a wide-range of characteristics, attributes, and traits that help attract a date. Some people are attracted to the shy individual and wish to “bring them out of their shell,” while others prefer a more sociable companion. This is why overcoming shyness proves beneficial for many, as it encourages one to make new acquaintances and improve their art of conversation.

In some people, shyness may develop into an extreme case, which transforms into Social Anxiety Disorder. Overcoming this level of shyness is very important because it can hurt your chances of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, as well as strain the relationships you currently have. Overcoming shyness is important to those who would like to meet more people and surpass their social obstacles, which truly limits the amount of potential dates they may attract, select, and enjoy.

It is important to also overcome shyness in a healthy manner, as some are known to turn to drugs or alcohol to help “loosen up.” They often believe these substances help them act bolder and appear “the life of the party” when in reality - they behave quite inappropriately.

Tips on Overcoming Shyness

In order to become a more productive, active dater - overcoming shyness helps enhance overall communication skills and increases the chances of meeting someone new or enjoying a second date with a man or woman. When you are ready to take an active stance against shyness, a few tips to consider include:

1) Build Confidence: It is important to approach life with a positive view of yourself, as shyness is often influenced by feeling substandard or “less than” others.

2) Set Goals: To overcome shyness, first set small goals and then gradually increase activities that test your level of boldness.

3) Try Daring Things: At least once-a-week, try something you normally wouldn’t do - even if it is tasting octopus for the first time or going to a club you’ve always wanted to visit but never did.

4) Laugh: Making it a habit to frequently laugh helps to ease the tension associated with your feelings.

5) Make a List: Create a list about some of the things that cause you to act shy that you would like to work on. One-by-one, attempt to satisfy desired changes you want for yourself.

6) Recognize the Source: Sometimes shyness surfaces when people are placed in certain situations that trigger this type of emotion. Locating the source of your shyness is suggested for those who wish to move on in their life. Ask yourself what bothers you, when, and why. For instance, do you become shy when confronted with large crowds or does one-on-one contact create your only shy reactions?

7) Face Your Fears: Once you pinpoint the source of your shyness, it is suggested to face your fears and approach obstacles with enthusiasm.

Jul 29

A long, long time ago, the path from courtship to marriage was clear. Women waited for men to ask them out, allowed men to pay for every date, and breathlessly anticipated a marriage proposal. Back then, the rules of courtship were clearly defined. There were things a woman did … and things she should NEVER do. Only a vulgar and shameless woman would pursue a man.

Many of today’s so-called “time-tested secrets” for meeting and attracting Mr. Right come from that era, an age in which men were MEN, and women were WOMEN, and gender roles kept them an arms-length apart.

Playing by those rules today isn’t just old-fashioned; it’s just plain limiting. Today, we as women have more freedom than at any other time in human history. We can work in whatever job we want, live wherever we want, and date whomever we want! Why, then, would we willingly step back under the yoke of courtship Do’s and Don’ts designed in a culture that’s long past and good riddance?

Because, in the often-confusing modern dating world, rules make us feel safe. Do’s and Don’ts can keep us from making mistakes. Dating “rules” (like ending a phone call first, or not accepting a weekend date after Wednesday) can prevent us from getting rejected.

Or can they?

If you keep yourself from doing certain things around men and make yourself do others based on FEAR that you’ll make a mistake or FEAR that he’ll reject you, then you’re setting the foundation for a relationship based on insecurity.

It’s the same error our grandmothers and great-grandmothers made so many years ago: they looked to the MEN to define whether they were in a relationship, what form it would take, and how long it would last.

As a result, the only way women were able to influence the outcome was through indirect means - such being mysterious, playing “hard to get,” and not letting on how they felt - to get what they wanted.

Today, it’s wonderful that men and women both can be so open, honest, and direct about topics that were taboo just a few generations before. But with this freedom comes power … and a great deal of confusion.

Even though the old rules were restricting, at least they gave us the confidence of familiarity. We knew what to do. We knew what the man’s role was, and we knew what the woman’s role was.

But if men and women each have an equal say in dating and relationships, then who is supposed to make the next move … and what even IS the next move?

“The old dating Do’s and Don’ts simply are not flexible enough to account for the way society has changed and the diversity of cultures that exists.

“That’s why I believe it is so important that we develop a new paradigm for dating and relationships that reflects who we are as modern women in a modern dating world.” says Amy Waterman, co-author of the new MAKE EVERY MAN WANT YOU MORE!.

Amy Waterman, author of HOW TO BE IRRISISTIBLE TO MEN, and Marie Forleo, author of MAKE EVERY MAN WANT YOU, got together to produce a dating course unlike any other. They set out to show how women can find out what to do in ANY dating situation, in a way that’s appropriate, effortless, and completely IRRESISTIBLE … all without resorting to outdated Do’s and Don’t that may not even apply to them!

Their collaboration resulted in the riveting audio program, MAKE EVERY MAN WANT YOU MORE!! Over the six-lesson course, Amy and Marie lay out the essential tools every modern woman needs in a modern dating world, what it takes to move a relationship along from casual to committed, how to navigate tricky dating areas like communication, sex, “baggage” from your past, and more.

Single women today can feel enormously pressured to live up to a high standard in ALL areas of their life, from their careers to their appearance to their love life. If you don’t want to settle for anything less than excellence in life AND love, then Make Every Man Want You More will teach you how to effortlessly and flawlessly achieve your goals.

Marie and Amy have cleverly incorporated the concept of “living in the moment” or “living in the now” into their course. Authors and thinkers from Eckhart Tolle to Wayne Dyer have discussed this concept widely, and now Marie and Amy have taken this concept and applied it to the dating world. It seems to work, and I was hooked on what they had to say!

Most other courses train people to believe that having a relationship is what is going to bring you happiness. It’s not. You are looking for a relationship because you want one, not because someone tells you that you need one. Marie tell us how your irresistibility lies in this moment, because this is where life happens.

Jul 29

For most of the dating advice for women, none of them will advice on having no boy friend. But do you know the advantages of having no boy friend? Here they are: 1. You can relax and sleep throughout the weekend, and need not to take the trouble to prepare for a dating.

2. Need not put on make-up after getting up early. Do not have to worry about boyfriend despise.

3. You can freely see handsome man everywhere in streets, lets one aesthetic to get caught up in the trend.

4. Can do all the shopping I want. Do not have to see the boyfriend’s dissatisfied faces.

5. You can hanging hunk photos everywhere in the house, from South Korea, Japan or US.

6. Life can be prolonged, do not need to become a punching bag due to the boy friend’s male chauvinist.

7. May access the internet at ease, do not have to worry about competing for the access right, or need not listen to complains that he does not like you to go online.

8. Good to save time, need not always occupy a few days time with the boy friend in a week. Do not have to keep calling to make certain his location.

9. Save big amount of telephone bill $$$. Do not have to worry the feeling of fainting when look at the bill. No dating tips is mentioning this.

10. Save large quantity of Saliva. Does not have to keep asking questions like “do you love me?”, “do you really love me?”…

11. Can have more room to accompany the parents. Do not have to worry about him complain: I am not the one you love most!.

12. Can arbitrarily talking whole night with friends, KTV. Do not have to worry about boyfriend’s dislike!

13. Can concentrate work and study, need not worry about neglecting “someone” which will provoke World War III and harm innocents.

14. Can be more broad-minded to view the world, do not have to focus in the eyes of a person.

15. Do not have to experience the grief because of lovesick.

16. The world becomes quiet and peaceful, there will be no necessity to listen to ambitious projects, great future plans, sporting events, Political storms and economic growth, etc.

17. You can talk to any men you like freely and need not worry about someone spying on you.

18. Cook food to one’s delight, no need to be afraid of being blamed for cooking distasteful food.

19. Most importantly, to have the infinite possibility! Taking meals with Aaron today, having film show with Bob tomorrow and window shopping with Charles day after tomorrow, etc. The single woman will not lack the admiration man!

Oh, wait!! Having so much advantages of having no boyfriend, in actual fact, they are instead inferior and far worse than having boyfriend. Really, having his soft lovely voice saying in your ear: “dear, I love you….”, is so much better than these advantages. Hence, the No.1 dating advice for women is to really have a boy friend and enjoy his love and care. I still prefer having a boyfriend.

Jul 29

It is difficult to get your first date with the girl you like. Once you get your first date, don’t simply blow it with mistake you make. The following points will ensure that your first date is a successful one: 1. Keep drawing close attention on her

Hoping to draw her attention on you, in fact it is better to start from yourself. This includes paying attention to her daily clothing and makeup and take note of her small details of life. Understanding what she wants to eat and what her hobbies and interests are. So as when you have the opportunity to talk to her, you can open up the topic naturally and explore it further. Once she knew that you have paid attention to her small and little details, in return, she will also tend to pay attention to you. This could make a great impression on you too.

2. Avoid unpredictable first date

First date, after all, is important. Girls like to be frank. It is better to set a date for the dating instead of asking for her availability. This is not only to show your sincerity but also to avoid her doubtfulness about your invitation.

3. Care and heartfelt concern

It is proved that she has had a good feeling about you when she agreed to come for the first date. At this point, you may wish to carefully taking note of her dressing and give her your sincere compliment. This will make her ultimately happy. In addition, you should be well prepared just before the date to make inquiries about what dishes she likes to eat. Moreover, pre-booked 3 different restaurants on sentiment and food style (of course to be concentrated in same area) for her selection. This will make her feel that your intimacy and especially your heartfelt sincerity. Opening the car door, widening the car seat and sending her back home safely are the necessary steps to show your Gentlemanly demeanor. Remember, she will pay special attention to all these details in your performance.

4. Don’t keep telling your former days affection

It is understood that you have a lot to tell when you like a girl. But many have committed mistake by telling of his former day’s affection during the very first date causing the date’s negative feeling. She turned up to your date not to listen to your ex-girl friends stories. Moreover, most girls want themselves to be unique in their boy’s heart and not to allow them to keep thinking of another woman. Jealousy tightens with love and cannot be controlled rationally. Hence, bear in mind to care for the other’s feeling when talk about the past love.

5. Give small gift to make her pleased

When come to first date, give her your pre-selected fine gift. This can be a stalk of a fresh tulip, a box of beautifully packed chocolate, a simple but nice designed necklace, an interesting book, etc. Small gift with great sincerity. You mustn’t act too hastily to give her your gold ornament or expensive leather bag. This would scare her when you give her these expensive gift during the very first date.

6. Avoid dry topic on conversation

You must listen attentively on her recent situation, like and dislike and views of things. Ask questions to have better understanding on her. Avoid dry topic. Let the conversation subject flow. Similarly, you should also talk about some interesting topic and not always your own expertise and ambition. Remember, do not bore her during the first date and there could no longer be another appointment any more.

7. Let the whole date ended successfully

Ask her opinions on the meal after dinner. Ask her if she was interested to go to other restaurants or continue to stay for dessert. Eating dessert after dinner is a good proposal because this will make her feel your thoughtfulness. You should fetch her home after dinner. Before parting, say something to her like this softly: “I feel real good with you for the night”, this will make her ultimately pleased. Right now, add one more: “May we continue to come out like this with me?” What do you think? Will she refuse it?

Jul 27

Finding true love or a casual relationship can be a daunting task in the 21st century. The 9-5 workday sounds like an unattainable dream to most of us, and somehow everything we do in a 24-hour time span revolves around the Internet. Dating is no exception and online dating sites have come through when so many just want to give up on love.

What are the benefits of trying an online dating site, you ask? Well, for starters, you might actually find someone who wants a relationship too. Ever been in that imperfect dating dilemma where your date seems to hang on your every word and three weeks down the line, doesn’t even return your calls because he “needs his space?” It happens to most everyone who is single or who has been single.

6Star Reviews.com reports that one online dating service, True, screens their new members for criminal activity, so you won’t end up with an America’s Most Wanted protégé. For you gutsy group of singles, Chemistry is a pretty unique online dating site that matches you with Mr./Ms. Right based on scientific chemistry. Ok, so they say. But, they do let you fill out fun profile questionnaires, with abstract questions such as “Give this book a name,” letting your inner artist come through.

While you may have your doubts, remember that if you can pay your bills, trade stocks, shop for anything under the sun, and talk to friends online, why can’t you meet your match on the Web as well? There is a singles pool in the millions within some of the best online dating services and those sick of blind dates and being the third wheel may find them beneficial.

Remember, just because the woman of your dreams doesn’t live down the block, it doesn’t mean she’s not worth it. She may very well be in Alaska. Weekend snowboarding soiree, anyone?

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